HOW TO POSITIVELY CHANGE YOUR VIEW OF HOMEMAKING!
26 May 2022 | DIYA RAJGURU
What is home?A home is a sense of familiarity. It’s a cozy, comfortable place, where the world can stay at the door, and we can rest our heads, and feel safe in the thought that there is love and peace to protect us from the harsh realities outside. Over the last couple of years, we have come to realise the importance of our homes, more than ever. The pandemic put the spotlight on our homes, and our perspectives towards this beautiful entity, this unit of society, altered quite a bit.
How safe we felt indoors, and how much we tended to it, cared for it, enhanced its vibes, and added so much love, peace and well being to all who lived in our homes.
How safe we felt indoors, and how much we tended to it, cared for it, enhanced its vibes, and added so much love, peace and well being to all who lived in our homes.
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A HomemakerLargely this has been the domain of women. No, I’m not getting into the gender bias or gender roles here. Just an observation of the status quo. Quite frankly, it comes naturally to us women, who are born with the trait of nurturing and nourishing. And I have no shame in admitting that I love being a stay at home mom and taking care of my domain - my home.
How to stay motivatedMany refer to homemaking as a thankless job; one that involves only hours and hours of toil, with no monetary compensation, not much appreciation or not much encouragement. While some of this may be true, it does require motivation to be a homemaker. The right motivation, infact, never comes from outside, never comes from someone applauding us, or praising or acknowledging us, but just by a simple shift in perspective. Let me show you how. Shifting our perspectivesWhen the world tells us that homemaking is boring, or that it is unpaid for, or that it is hard, physical work, not for the educated… let us just pause for a while. Take a step back, and look at our homes. Look at the kids who are healthy, happy, and who dance around plopping on the sofa and growing up right in front of our eyes. Let us see images of a great family meal together, full of love and laughter. Let us recall the fantastic aromas that emanated from the kitchen, that brought smiles and shrieks of joy to our family members. Let us look at images of clean clothes, well kept gardens, welcoming interiors… now, if we were to remove ourselves from this equation, will any of this have been possible? There are some things on which we cannot put a price tag, and home making is one of them. And as homemakers, the rewards are not monetary, but much much more significant than that.
How to stay motivatedMany refer to homemaking as a thankless job; one that involves only hours and hours of toil, with no monetary compensation, not much appreciation or not much encouragement. While some of this may be true, it does require motivation to be a homemaker. The right motivation, infact, never comes from outside, never comes from someone applauding us, or praising or acknowledging us, but just by a simple shift in perspective. Let me show you how. Shifting our perspectivesWhen the world tells us that homemaking is boring, or that it is unpaid for, or that it is hard, physical work, not for the educated… let us just pause for a while. Take a step back, and look at our homes. Look at the kids who are healthy, happy, and who dance around plopping on the sofa and growing up right in front of our eyes. Let us see images of a great family meal together, full of love and laughter. Let us recall the fantastic aromas that emanated from the kitchen, that brought smiles and shrieks of joy to our family members. Let us look at images of clean clothes, well kept gardens, welcoming interiors… now, if we were to remove ourselves from this equation, will any of this have been possible? There are some things on which we cannot put a price tag, and home making is one of them. And as homemakers, the rewards are not monetary, but much much more significant than that.
What happens when we shift our peerspectives?When this small shift in perspective takes place in our minds, we feel a new sense of respect for ourselves. We feel indispensable, unlike any career platforms, we feel worthy, and oh, so good about our contribution. Deep within, as humans, we always feel happiness when we give of ourselves willingly. And home making is the perfect opportunity to do so. When we see ourselves as the CEO of the household, the jobs do not seem mundane, or boring. We have an all important job of raising a family, and creating beautiful memories to fall back on, in our old age. And what could be more gratifying than this role?!
Dress up for the jobNow that we have shifted our perspective to looking at homemaking as a wonderful indispensable responsibility, let us put our best selves forward. Just because we are within the confines of our homes, we need not dress up shabbily. Let’s put on fresh, neat, elegant and comfortable clothes. An apron will help in keeping the spills and dirt away. Let’s present ourselves neatly to ourselves first and then to the rest of the family. Looking well groomed, with comfortable hair dos, and fresh looking faces, is an obligation we owe to ourselves. And when we look good, we feel good. And it feels good to feel good! Never compareEvery home is different, as are its members. Every person’s abilities and threshold limits vary. Hence when we compare our home making skills with another’s we are only being unfair to ourselves. Our strengths and weaknesses are ours and ours alone. Let us strive to become better versions of ourselves, and not race with anyone else. It is our home, our family, and only we know best. Comparing can take the charm out of homemaking, and make the tasks at hand bitter. No, we do not want that.
Matriarch versus martyr Source: https://richlyrooted.com/2017/04/things-intentional-homemakers-do-daily.html
Are you a matriarch or a martyr? Are you a strong, wise and confident woman? Or are you the complaining, whining, depressed woman?The former makes you a matriarch, just like those spirited grandmas we have seen in our growing up years. The latter makes you a martyr - someone who can spread only negativity, and make home making a drab. Think and course correct. Let our children and our grandchildren remember us matriarchs.
On that note, I hope you found some homemaking motivation here. Do share your own experiences as well. And together let’s wear the homemaking badge proudly!
Dress up for the jobNow that we have shifted our perspective to looking at homemaking as a wonderful indispensable responsibility, let us put our best selves forward. Just because we are within the confines of our homes, we need not dress up shabbily. Let’s put on fresh, neat, elegant and comfortable clothes. An apron will help in keeping the spills and dirt away. Let’s present ourselves neatly to ourselves first and then to the rest of the family. Looking well groomed, with comfortable hair dos, and fresh looking faces, is an obligation we owe to ourselves. And when we look good, we feel good. And it feels good to feel good! Never compareEvery home is different, as are its members. Every person’s abilities and threshold limits vary. Hence when we compare our home making skills with another’s we are only being unfair to ourselves. Our strengths and weaknesses are ours and ours alone. Let us strive to become better versions of ourselves, and not race with anyone else. It is our home, our family, and only we know best. Comparing can take the charm out of homemaking, and make the tasks at hand bitter. No, we do not want that.
Matriarch versus martyr Source: https://richlyrooted.com/2017/04/things-intentional-homemakers-do-daily.html
Are you a matriarch or a martyr? Are you a strong, wise and confident woman? Or are you the complaining, whining, depressed woman?The former makes you a matriarch, just like those spirited grandmas we have seen in our growing up years. The latter makes you a martyr - someone who can spread only negativity, and make home making a drab. Think and course correct. Let our children and our grandchildren remember us matriarchs.
On that note, I hope you found some homemaking motivation here. Do share your own experiences as well. And together let’s wear the homemaking badge proudly!
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